Posted May 21, 2008: how do you do it. i mean you love the person. they are not necessarily the person you need. not the person who can be there. not the person to be the partner for you. but you dont want them to change themselves. dont want them to force a change for you. i think there is a world full of people who are great and fabulous. just the way they are. but are any of them right for me as is? that's the true test, isnt it.